A Really Sad Day (Project 366 – Day 5)

Today has been tough and definitely not a day where there were any opportunities to whip my camera out and take a snap for my blog. In fact it didn’t even cross my mind until just now when I realised I didn’t have a photo for day 5. So here it is:  


A close friend’s mum passed away suddenly today. I’ve known and loved my friend since we were 11. We went to school together, went to Leeds for uni together, went to New York together and grew up together. We don’t see each other all that often now because she lives a few hours away but we text every single day.  

Today we did have plans to see each other, with another close friend we went to school, uni and New York with. But our plans were scrapped and we all ended up at the hospital where my friend’s mum died this morning. 

So in the photo are two cards, one for my friend and one for her mum’s husband. My friend’s real dad died when she was 5. Life’s a real bitch sometimes isn’t it?

The cards look pathetic now but I bought them earlier in a desperate attempt to be there for my friend. To try to show her how much I care, how much I hate that she’s going through this and hurting this much.

There just aren’t any words of comfort to give when something like this happens because the truth is, there’s no comfort to be had. Death is brutal. 

Sisterhood of the World Award

The wonderful This Mum’s Life has nominated me for this award (haha that sounds like I’ve done something to deserve the nomination and I might win something. Neither of which are true, sadly), which means I answer her 10 questions and then pose 10 of my own questions to 10 other bloggers. It’s a great way to find other interesting blogs plus the 14 year old in me loves this sort of self indulgent quizzy stuff!

This Mum’s Life really is worth checking out and I especially recommend this hilarious post about those ‘perfect’ crunchy mums we’ve all come across at those god awful baby groups.


The Rules of this award are:

1. Thank the blogger who gave you the award and link back to their blog

2. Answer the 10 questions given to you

3. Nominate a further 10 bloggers for the award

4. Write 10 questions for those nominees to answer

5. Display the award on your blog, or post


So here are the questions I’ve been asked and my answers…

1. What is your biggest blogging highlight so far?

I haven’t been blogging long but I’ve found some pretty brilliant blogs and virtually met some like minded people since I started blogging, but the highlight has to be the response I got from the post about my baby’s heart condition and the tumultuous journey during his first 6 weeks of life. The well wishes from and kindness of strangers has been truly overwhelming. 

2. What is your favourite city in the world?

I think London is pretty special and I have a soft spot for Liverpool but I have great memories of Amman in Jordan, where I have family, so I have to say that’s my fave.  

3. What are your top 3 tv series of all time?

When I was younger tv series’ seemed to have more of an impact on me than they do now, so I’m going to pick the 3 I remember the most about:

Pugwall’s Summer.
What an amazing programme with an amazing theme tune! Remember?! If not, have a listen here and reminisce about how great early 90’s kids tv was!

My So-Called Life  I absolutely LOVED this programme and full on fell in love with Jared Leto. It was full of teen angst and gritty issues like homophobia and teen alcoholism. In fact I’m going to check Netflix to see if it’s on there because I fancy watching it al again!

    The Mindy Project

    This got me through my second pregnancy when my SPD was horrendous and I felt constantly nauseous for the first 6 months. It was on E4 everyday at my oldest’s nap time so instead of tidying up I used to have a cuppa and indulge in some light-hearted American rom-com sit-com cheese. 

    4. What did you want to be when you were growing up?

    Initially I wanted to be a hairdresser (I still think I’d be good at that) but then when it became clearer that I was academic I wanted to be a Solicitor. I did become a Solicitor and it wasn’t all Alley McBeal and Silk, let me tell you. 

    5. If you could go back to being a certain age in your life, what would it be?

    21. Without a doubt. It was a great year. I was at uni in Leeds studying for a degree in Classics, I had loads of free time, a great social life and brilliant house mates. Life was pretty peachy. I had all the freedom of an adult but didn’t yet have many of the responsibilities. Plus I was thin!

    6. Who is your favourite comedian?

    This was probably the easiest question for me to answer and the answer is, Russell Brand. I find him hilarious and I love his politics. I know some people think he’s cocky but that’s just his style. He makes me pee my pants! And he’s very handsome.

    7. What was the last thing you saw at the cinema?

    I can’t actually remember! I haven’t been to the cinema since 2012! I don’t really miss it either, I never really enjoyed sitting still for that long 😂. Occasionally I’ll see a film advertised that I fancy seeing but it usually comes out on DVD or Sky Box Office before I get my act together to go to the cinema to see it. 

    8. What has been the most romantic moment in your life so far?

    Err… these have been few and far between to be honest. My husband is about as romantic as a plank of wood. On our first Christmas as a married couple he totally surprised me with diamond earrings and a designer handbag that he’d had hidden in the loft. That was pretty romantic I suppose. 

    9. If you were to blog about another subject, what would it be?

    I don’t really have a theme to my blog, it’s just my random mumblings really. If I had the inclination to blog more seriously with the aim of getting loads of readers the only things I really know about are make up and false eyelashes!

    10. Snog, marry, avoid: Mr. Bloom, Andy Day, Ben Cajee?

    Good grief, what a question! In case you don’t know, these three are CBeebies presenters and all look about 17 (with the exception of Mr. Bloom perhaps, who is now on Hollyoaks btw. Weird.)

    All I can say is that if I came into contact with any of them I’d be too busy concentrating on not punching them in the nose for being as irritating as thrush, to do any snogging or marrying!

    Phew. Ok, so my questions are:

    1. What made you decide to start blogging?

    2. What would you choose for your last supper?

    3. If you could have dinner with anyone, dead or alive, who would it be?

    4. Where is your favourite place that you have been and what’s so special about it?

    5. How did you come up with the name for your blog?

    6. What is your favourite book ever?

    7. What’s your most embarrassing guilty pleasure?

    8. Who would play you in the movie of your life?

    9. What would your super power be?

    10. What is your proudest achievement?

    The bloggers I’d like to nominate are:

    The Accidental Hipster Mum

    Chico in the City

    The Comeback Mum

    Picking Up Toys

    Through the Glitter Glass

    Handful of Half Pennys

    Something Crunchy Mummy

    Little Hearts Big Love

    Darly Darly

    Teaching Mum 81

    If it’s not your bag please don’t feel pressured into taking part. I know this is some people’s idea of tedious hell! But I look forward to reading the answers of those who fancy it. 

    Thanks for reading! 😊

    2016 had better be ACE!

    At the end of 2014 I thought 2015 was shaping up to be great. Overall I suppose it was, my second child was born after all. But the stress of his entrance into the world dominated the whole year really and it’s pretty much all I can remember about 2015 now. 

    So here’s hoping 2016 is calm and happy. No major dramas please. No hospital stays please. No stressful situations that literally make my hair fall out please. (Seriously, this moon face could not pull off the bald look.)

    I have an awful lot to be thankful for, I know, and I’d really like it if I could continue to be thankful throughout 2016 and maybe even more thankful for zero nasty surprises.  

     So HAPPY NEW YEAR from me and mine to you and yours. Here’s hoping the next 12 months prove to be nothing but fabulous. 

    (2016 is bound to be better than 2015 anyway. It’s an even number for a start.)

    I’ve Been Outed!

    My blog was initially going to be anonymous so that I could moan about my nearest and dearest and they’d never know. But I shot myself in the foot by blogging about my baby’s congenital heart defect and then agreeing for it to be shared on Facebook by a charity that raises money for the unit that saved his life (how could I refuse?!).

    Anyway, now pretty much all of my friends and family are aware of my geeky little blog which means two things. Firstly, I can’t slag anyone off godammit and secondly, I will cringe every time I speak to anyone I know in case they’ve read my latest blog post and think it was poxy. 

    Never mind. I’m still going to continue with the blog and I’ll try extra hard not to make it boring, like so many of these parent blogs are. (Not yours, if you’ve got one. Yours is marvellous.)

    Be Classy Not Flashy This Christmas!

      I find it really hard to bite my tongue when parents upload photo after photo of  mammoth piles of Christmas presents under the tree on Christmas Eve/Christmas Day. 

    Yes, I know it’s none of my business how much they buy for their children, but by plastering it all over Facebook and Instagram etc. they are inviting comment and here’s mine: stop it! The photos that is. Buy what you want for your kids but really, why must it be bragged about?!

    It’s not that I think their children will become spoilt brats or that I feel Christmas is too commercial these days, they are not the reasons the flashy photos annoy me so much. It’s because I know it makes some parents feel inferior. Like they aren’t giving their children enough, like their kids won’t be as happy as the kids with all the presents in the photos. 

    And what are these parents really saying when they upload the photos? What are they hoping to achieve? Comments congratulating them on how much they’ve bought? Pats on the back for buying the whole of Toys R Us and therefore being the greatest most loving parents there are? I can’t help but conclude that it’s just plain and simple showing off. And nobody likes a show off. 

    Maybe my kids have got the most obscenely huge pile of presents under the tree, maybe they’ve only got two things each. Nobody will know because I certainly won’t be plastering it all over social media. 

    Whether your children have a lot or not so much this year, I hope they have a magical day tomorrow. And to all the struggling parents out there who wish they could’ve given more, don’t worry. We all know it’s the cheapest, most random presents that we remember from our childhoods and not the big extravagant ones. 

    Merry Christmas! Xx

    From Painting the Town to Painting Pottery

    My very good friend the Accidental Hipster Mum (AHM) (check out her blog by the way, it’s great and funny) and I had some fabulous nights out in our (slightly) younger days. We were both single, both had more time on our hands (even though we were working full time) and both looked forward immensely to our Saturday night shenanigans. During the week we were an optician and solicitor respectively; but come Saturday night we were wild and free.  

    Me on the left (excuse the eyebrows. And the pout. Selfies had just come out.) AHM on the right.

    On one of these raucous nights out we came across none other than Walford’s finest – Dean Gaffney! He was tagging along while Phil Mitchell did a meet and greet at a really bad nightclub we had a soft spot for. Gaffers was keen that we should join him at his ‘after party’ and I thought it would be hilarious to give him AHM’s phone number but my battery had died and I didn’t know her number so I asked her to give him it. She misunderstood and bloody well gave him mine! I ignored his texts but we’ve been unapologetically dining out on the story ever since. And why wouldn’t we?!

    It was actually only about 4 years ago that we were painting the town red and getting into Gaffney-based scrapes but so much has changed, it feels like it was in another life. 

    I’ve got married, had 2 kids and stopped working and the Accidental Hipster Mum has settled down with the man of her dreams, had another baby (she already had a beautiful daughter) and started a degree course!

    We are still the best of friends and text daily. We don’t get to see each other as much as we’d like but last week we made the effort to meet up because AHM’s birthday is coming up. 

    Did we put in our best frocks for a night on the tiles, hoping to bump into another Eastender? No. We went pottery painting.  

    AHM being massively creative. I opted for the very original white star on black background.

    It might seem like an odd choice but we have form. AHM is very creative and great at all things crafty, me less so but I enjoy giving it a go, so we’ve been a few times before. And the best thing about it is we have plenty of time to natter in peace and the pottery painting place provides unlimited free cups of tea. What more could you ask for?!

    I’ve just read that back. Oh how my idea of a good time has changed…

    My Baby’s Broken Heart (Transposition of the Great Arteries)

    This is a pretty heavy subject matter for a blog post but what happened changed me, it changed my outlook on life and it changed the way I think and even the way I feel. I  have a need to write about it. So here goes…

    Day 1

    Newborn Zaki. Not a hint of anything wrong.
    On 17th July 2015 at 4.48am I gave birth to my second baby boy, Zaki. I’d had a c-section with my first and I was so chuffed that I’d managed a vaginal birth with 8lb 5 Zaki, mainly because it meant I could go home soon and bask in the post-birth afterglow and mist of love that surrounds you when you’ve just had a baby, and be with my two precious boys. Or so I thought.

    Everything seemed fine at first. We took some snaps of our new arrival and texted our nearest and dearest to let them know that he’d arrived.

    Zaki took his first feed from me. Not much, hardly anything really. But hey, he’d just been born, he needed a rest, so we let him off. When I attempted another feed around an hour later Zaki wouldn’t wake or attempt to drink at all. Not too worried, I told the midwife who was in the room at the time. She suggested we try with a syringe to get him interested and left the room to get one. It just so happened that there was a doctor outside when she opened the door. She asked him if he’d come to check over Zaki. He hadn’t, but he would do, as he was there. I still wasn’t worried.

    The doctor started checking over Zaki and after around a minute shouted outside that he needed help. A midwife rushed in. I started to worry. He told the midwife that Zaki’s sats (oxygen saturation levels) were very low. The midwife replied that they couldn’t be because Zaki was “a good colour” and his machine must be wrong. He tried again with another machine; still very low. He told the midwife to get Zaki to special care immediately. There was absolute panic in his voice. I was crying now.

    We found out over the course of the next few hours that Zaki had been born with a congenital heart defect (CHD) called Transposition of the Great Arteries (TGA). I won’t go into too much medical detail (if you want to know more this website explains well) but basically two arteries were in the wrong position and pumping blood to the wrong parts of the body. They needed to be swapped over and a consultant who came in especially to diagnose Zaki told us that if something wasn’t done that day Zaki would die. 


    Zaki being prepared for the journey to Leeds General Infirmary by air ambulance.
    Zaki was deteriorating rapidly. He was put into an induced coma and onto a ventilator. The air ambulance was called, and he was flown to Leeds General Infirmary within the first few hours of his life. We couldn’t fly with him, we had to say goodbye, knowing that it might be a forever goodbye. Not knowing if he’d be alive when we saw him again. My heart was broken into a million pieces seeing his tiny body in that pod, knowing there wasn’t a thing I could do to help him. I put my trust in the air ambulance doctors who were amazing at trying to reassure us. They told us he was “very very sick but we’ll do everything we can”. The looks on their faces gave more away than their words though. 

    We were told that as soon as Zaki got to Leeds a procedure called a balloon septostomy would be performed on him to create a hole in his heart so that the blood could mix and more oxygen would be circulated around his body. 

    The rest of that day is mostly a blur. My husband and I made our way to Leeds but I don’t remember the journey. I do remember that I googled like mad to try and find out as much as I could about TGA. I’m the kind of person that clings onto statistics, so I was comforted when I read that 90-something percent of babies born with TGA are successfully operated on and go on to live healthy lives with no need for further surgery. Zaki’s case was more complicated, although nobody knew why until the surgeons actually opened his chest and looked at his heart. But if your baby is born with TGA, the chances are, he or she will be fine.

    In Zaki’s case we didn’t know that he had TGA before he was born, it wasn’t picked up at his 20 week anomaly scan and apparently around 50% of cases are not picked up pre-natally. If we had known, Zaki would have been born in Leeds, rather than in our local hospital.

    Usually the balloon septostomy will buy time for a baby to grow and become strong enough for heart surgery, around 7-10 days after being born. When we arrived in Leeds we were told that the procedure hadn’t improved Zaki’s sats as much as was hoped or as much as it usually would. Sats should be as close to 100 as possible; Zaki’s were in the 60’s. The doctors couldn’t work out why. 

    Day 2

    The next day was probably the worst because it really hit home what was happening. The doctors couldn’t understand why Zaki was so poorly. A consultant in the Peadiatric Intensive Care Unit (PICU) told me that “Zaki probably wouldn’t survive”. I looked at her blankly. She said it again. I nodded but I didn’t believe her. My brain wouldn’t let me believe her because it knew that if I did wouldn’t survive. 

    A few hours later she told us that Zaki was so ill they might have to operate as an emergency that day. It was a Saturday but she had called the surgical team in to discuss whether to operate. She told us that if they didn’t Zaki would probably die but if they did, he was so ill that he would probably die in surgery. I really don’t know how I survived as she was telling me this. I was on autopilot. I was hearing the words but not taking them in. I was responding to her but it wasn’t me speaking. It was decided the doctors would try  everything they could think of to improve Zaki’s condition as much as they could and he would be operated on the next day.

    Day 3

    Zaki looked so ill that day. His whole body and face were extremely swollen due to the extra fluids that were being pumped into him.   
    We signed the consent forms. The surgeon and cardiologist spoke to us as length about the operation and the risks. I only heard “death, brain damage, organ failure”. Through my tears I begged the surgeon not to let him die.

    We were told the operation would last around 3 hours. It was more like 9. The longest 9 hours of my entire life, it felt like days. Some people go shopping, go for a meal, go to sleep while their baby is in theatre. We couldn’t do any of that. We didn’t eat or drink anything. We were in a daze. My stomach was in knots, I could feel my heart physically aching. The last thing the doctor had told us was that Zaki was in a really vulnerable situation and that we had to prepare ourselves for the worst.

    For the majority of the 9 hours we sat in the waiting area of PICU. The doctors had said they’d come and get us as soon as the operation was over. It was excrutiating and when the nurse finally came to tell us the operation was over I was shaking, through anxiety and sheer exhaustion.

    We were taken into a room with the surgeon, a cardiologist and a nurse and it was explained to us that upon opening Zaki’s chest they had found that he had TGA and 2 holes in his heart. But what was causing the biggest problem was his coronary artery, which was too narrow; a quarter of the size that it should have been. That’s the reason he had been so sick. The amazing surgeon, Stefano Congiu, the man I admire more than anyone else in the world, had managed to make it bigger but he had no idea how successful the surgery was going to prove to have been. He’d never performed this kind of surgery before and neither had anyone else. Newborn’s hearts are the size of a walnut, the suture the surgeon was stitching with was finer than a strand of my hair. That this kind of surgery can be performed at all is a miracle to me. 

    The surgeon told us that 1 in 4 babies in this situation would die. I immediately flipped that statistic and replied that that meant that 3 in 4 would survive.

    While Zaki was in theatre his heart was stopped and he was put onto a bypass machine (called an ECMO machine) so that the surgeon could operate. The ECMO machine pumps the blood around the body, bypassing the heart and lungs. 

    We’d been warned that he might come out of theatre still on that life support machine so that his heart and lungs could rest, but he didn’t, which we were told was a very good sign.  But it didn’t last. After about 2 hours the doctors asked everyone to leave PICU because they needed to implement theatre conditions to put Zaki back on the ECMO machine. His heart was too weak after the surgery and couldn’t function, so he needed the ECMO machine to do the work for him while he recovered. His surgeon told us that 1 in every 2 babies in this position would die. Again I flipped it and said “yes but that means 50% survive”. The odds don’t sound so bad when you put them like that, do they?

    The ECMO machine is on the right.

    After surgery Zaki’s chest was left open. We were warned that it would be. I could see his poorly heart trying its hardest to beat. Looking around the intensive care bay I could see that none of the other babies or children were in the same situation as Zaki. He was the only one on ECMO, as well as being on a ventilator and an enormous amount of life support drugs. We were told the situation had to be assessed on an hour by hour basis. The number of consultants, registrars, surgeons and nurses caring for Zaki was overwhelming. Each of them really trying their absolute hardest to save my baby. I owe each of them, and the amazing NHS, so much more than I will ever be able to give. 

    Days 4-9 

    Zaki’s surgeon told us that the maximum number of days he could be on the ECMO machine was 10. After that the blood would start clotting and there were other risks that came with the machine that would become greater, such as organ failure and brain damage. Also, in their experience, if a heart isn’t well enough after 10 days of rest, it’s never going to be. Each morning an ECHO (scan) was done on Zaki’s heart to assess the function. Each day we were told there was a slight improvement and that’s what we clung onto. As I walked down the hospital corridor on my way to PICU each morning I would beg and pray to God that the ECHO showed an improvement. 

    We were told on several different occasions that Zaki probably wasn’t going to survive and we should prepare ourselves for the worst; that he was deteriorating.  But we always kept the belief that he could fight through it. I never once allowed myself to fully process that I might not be taking my baby home to meet his brother. And he was such a fighter, he always bounced back after each set back, his strength gave us strength. 

    After 5 days on the ECMO machine the doctors decided to try to take Zaki off it. It was another agonising wait, this time for 4 hours. But he came off it and his heart and lungs were now working, his body was working, with the help of a ventilator, a dialysis machine and too many drug infusions to count. I was ecstatic, I started to dare to think about taking my baby home one day soon. That night though, Zaki took a turn for the worse. I stayed with him until 4am when his nurse persuaded me to go and sleep and she would call if there was any change. I didn’t get a call and when I called PICU at 8am they told me that Zaki had started to improve again and was doing much better. 

    Days 10-17 

     Generally, things improved and improved from there on in. We had a few blips, a few blood transfusions, a few bad blood gas results and changes in medication. But we were starting to slowly relax and daring to believe he would be ok soon. His chest was closed 2 days after being taken off the bypass machine and as the sedatives were reduced he became more alert and opened his beautiful eyes on day 11.

    Zaki was still sedated and on a huge amount of morphine, which was gradually being reduced. The next big hurdle was coming off the ventilator and making sure Zaki could breathe for himself without tiring. After a few failed attempts he mastered the breathing thing on day 20, which meant that I could finally hold him!!! I was so happy I thought my heart would burst. I still tear up thinking about that moment he was placed into my arms. 


    The first photo of me and my boy.
    He spent 3 weeks exactly in PICU before he was transferred to the high dependency unit (HDU) of the paediatric cardiology ward.    

    Days 21-28

    My oldest boy, Omar, only just 2 himself, finally got to meet Zaki when he was transferred to HDU. During the whole time Zaki was in hospital Omar stayed with my parents while my husband and I stayed in a house on hospital grounds for families of sick children. The Sick Children’s Trust relies on charitable donations to run the houses and it was a godsend. I missed Omar so so so much and felt unbelievably guilty for leaving him but leaving Zaki wasn’t an option. 

    Omar meeting Zaki for the first time.

    After one week on the cardiology ward Zaki was transferred to our local hospital to be weaned off morphine and oxygen and establish feeding. 


    The ambulance journey from Leeds.

     Days 29 – 42

    I had been expressing milk since Zaki was born but my neglected and stressed-out body couldn’t make enough by week 5, so he was having formula top-ups. Because he was sedated for so long Zaki had lost his sucking reflex though, so he was being tube fed. There was talk of Zaki being discharged with oxygen canisters and his feeding tube still in situ but in the end he needed none of that. He started to take his feeds from a bottle, ditched the oxygen and exactly 6 weeks after he was born, on day 42, we went home. 


    It wasn’t all plain sailing once we got home. Zaki was prescribed (what seemed like) all the medicine in the world. It took me an age to prepare and administer it three times a day. He also had an undiagnosed cow’s milk protein allergy and vomited every single one of his feeds. Omar was confused and annoyed about being left for so long and I bore the brunt of it. Plus I was constantly (and I mean constantly) checking that Zaki was breathing and not blue. 

    My boys.

    Things have settled down a lot now. Omar loves me again and Zaki only takes two medicines a day. He’s also on hypoallergenic formula and gaining weight well. He had an appointment with his cardiologist this week, who was very pleased with his heart function and how he presented. 

    Neither Omar nor Zaki will remember those 6 weeks of hell when they’re older, thank goodness, but I can honestly say I’ll never be over it. Sometimes I look back and wonder how I got through the days. I think about the other children that were in PICU over the weeks. The boy that was brain damaged during his surgery, the baby that didn’t make it after her surgery, the 11 year old girl that had such a rare type of cancer nothing was known about it and her mother’s wails as she died. 

    Me and my baby were lucky. I’ll never stop counting my blessings and I’ll never ever stop championing the NHS for saving my baby’s life. 


    Little Hearts Big Love
    Mami 2 Five


    A Bit Of Everything

    Make up staples – Estée Lauder Double Wear Foundation 

    Since I was 13 I’ve been wearing a full face of make up and unless I’m made up I don’t fully feel like myself. It’s not that I hide behind make up or that it’s a mask, it’s more just part of who I am. And now that I’m older, have children and am sleep deprived, good concealer and foundation are things I really rely on. 

    Like most teenage girls I started off with the cheap stuff – Collection 2000 and Rinmel. I can still remember the smell of the Rimmel concealer stick and matt foundation I used to cake on every morning before school. Then when I got a Saturday job at 16 I thought I’d hit the big time and used to buy Max Factor, L’oreal and sometimes Body Shop make up. 

    It wasn’t until I started university in Leeds that I really discovered the delights of Mac, Laura Mercier, Dior, YSL, etc and I have to confess that a probably unreasonable wad of my student loan was spent at make up counters in House of Fraser and Harvey Nicholls. In my defence I did work on a Dior counter for a while and made huge use of the staff discount. 

    I’ve tried a lot foundations over the years, from the very cheapest to the decadently expensive, but I always go back to this one: Estée Lauder Double Wear.

     I’ve converted a fair few of my friends to it too and they’ve all thanked me, without exception. A few months ago I gave Georgio Armani Luminous Silk foundation a try after hearing marvellous things about it, but for me, Estée Lauder Double Wear still comes out on top. 

    So what’s so good about it? Pretty much everything! Except perhaps the price (around £30 for 30ml). But I think it’s well worth it. First of all, the coverage is amazing! You can apply a second layer if you need to but I never have. My skin tone is naturally uneven but this foundation covers all of that and leaves me with a good complexion. Secondly, it lasts! It really truly does last for a full 15 hours (at least) without having to be touched up. It doesn’t budge! Thirdly, and very importantly for me, it’s oil free. I have very oily skin so if I don’t use an oil free foundation I soon become shiny in a sweaty-looking way. Not a good look! And finally, a 30ml bottle goes a long way. Because the coverage is so good I find that I don’t use as much per application as other foundations, so I only buy it two or three times a year.   

    Because it’s oil-free and fairly dense (there is a more lightweight version available but I prefer more coverage) it’s important to moisturise really well before applying. To apply I use a brush; I find that this method achieves the best coverage quickly and evenly. I then use a setting powder and that’s it, I don’t re-touch for the rest of the day! 

    I also use the Double Wear Concealer under my eyes. As well as the usual I’m-a-mum-and-I-get-no-sleep dark circles, I also still have the remnants of the dreaded melasma from my last pregnancy underneath each eye. Double Wear Concealer coupled with the foundation totally covers them! 
    Everyone loves a before and after so here’s me pre and post application of concealer and foundation this morning. I didn’t use a colour corrector and the after shot is before I dusted on the setting powder. The photos were taken with the front camera on my iPhone and aren’t edited in any way. Pretty impressive hey?!

    Do you see why I love Double Wear so much?!
    I purchased the foundation and concealer yesterday in Boots (gotta love the advantage points!) and received a free gift in the shape of a lovely red cracker. I haven’t opened it yet but I’ll share its contents when I do. Oh and I also got 500 bonus advantage card points too, win!  

    I realise this post probably sounds like a sponsored big-up of the products but I promise you it isn’t, I wasn’t given anything or paid for writing this, I really do just genuinely rate them highly and wanted to spread the joy!

    If anyone thinks there’s an even better foundation out there please let me know but I doubt I’ll like it as much as my beloved Double Wear!

    The Muslim Christmas Struggle

    Although by no means devout, I am Muslim. My dad is from the Middle East and my mum is British. My siblings and I were raised to be Muslim but religion was never really rammed down our throats. My father is fairly westernised in a lot of ways but really strict in others. You know that brilliant film East is East? That resonates a lot.  I like to think that my dad allowed us to celebrate Christmas because he didn’t want us to miss out as kids. But the truth is he’s quite a complex man so I’ll probably never know why he didn’t object to it because God only knows he objected loudly to other less non-Muslimy stuff. 

    Anyway, we celebrated Christmas. We decked up the house, we got presents, we had Christmas dinner. We knew we weren’t Christian and it was supposed to be a Christian festival but hey, most of the people celebrating weren’t really Christians either. We probably knew more about Jesus than they did.

    As we got older Christmas became less of a thing. We’d exchange a few gifts but decking out the house and Christmas dinner sort of fell by the wayside somewhere along the line. I’m guessing for a lot of families Christmas doesn’t mean as much when there are no small children believing in the magic anymore. 

    Now I’ve moved out, got married and have children of my own; and I’m really struggling with Christmas. See, I kind of love it. I love the sparkle, I love the choosing of gifts, I love the excitement on kids’ faces that seems to last for the whole of December. I actually even love wrapping presents. I love all festivals and celebratory occasions to be honest, from Valentines to Halloween. But I feel really guilty about my desire to partake in some Christmassy traditions. 

    I probably feel more religious now than I ever have in my life and I know that it is against my religion to celebrate the festivals of non-Muslims. Recently I called upon God for a huge favour and he delivered. So it’s a bit rich if I now prance off and celebrate Christmas, even though I know I shouldn’t. My husband would really rather we didn’t acknowledge Christmas at all (what a Scrooge!) and I know some of his reasoning is sound (but I don’t admit it!).

    I tell him it’s not really religious, it’s cultural. I tell him we have to think of the kids. I don’t want them to miss out. I don’t want them to feel different in a bad way. Or to wish they weren’t who they are as they grow up. 

    In Islam Eid is celebrated twice a year but there is no equivalent of Santa. And how amazing and magical is the concept of Santa when you’re a kid?! And Eid over here is quite frankly a bit rubbish because the vast majority of people don’t know it’s going on so there isn’t much “Eid spirit” to be had. 


    Our teeny tiny Christmas tree
    Let’s be honest though, it’s not just about the kids. It’s me too. I don’t want to miss out on that happy Christmassy feeling. I’ll probably continue to struggle with this for a few more years until I find a solution I’m totally happy with but for this year we have a small tree and the kids will get some presents. I’ll cook a Christmas dinner of sorts (halal Turkey is hard to come by) and we’ll be merry for the day. 

      My Baby Looks Like Tim Off Corrie (and I only have myself to blame)

      My baby looks like Tim off Corrie and I only have myself to blame. (And not because Tim off Corrie is the dad.)

       You may not totally see it in these photos but I can assure you that at times, my 4 month old baby boy is the spit of Tim off Corrie. Or Tim Metcalfe, as he probably prefers to be known (because it’s his real name.)

      And I know why this has happened. It’s because I was mean. While I was pregnant I was mean about another baby. I giggled to my sister that a baby looked like Tim off Corrie and I provided her with screenshot evidence to prove it. That baby did indeed look like Tim off Corrie but as karma dictates, now too, so does my baby. 

      But it’s ok. I still think my baby is cute so all it really means is that I now regard Tim off Corrie as cute. (Mothers are wired so that we find our own children the cutest little beings on earth aren’t we? Probably a throw back to cave men times so we don’t reject them or something.) 

      My baby may or may not be a cutie but who cares? To me he’s a scrumptious little Tim off Corrie.

      Anyway, moral of the story: don’t be mean about babies or you’ll get a Tim off Corrie one. (Which actually is no bad thing.)

      He doesn’t always look like Tim off Corrie, see?